Thursday, June 19, 2008

Just my honest opinion -Pt 2

So my guy friend of 8 years and the cheating girlfriend of his whom I have known for almost 3 years are taking a break from each other after the whole affair was inappropriately unveiled to the rest of my JB circle of friends.

The girl was not happy that I told her that she is a slut and defended herself that really I don't know what has been going on in the relationship between she and the boyfriend for the past year. Everything had been rocky since the start of 2007. they appeared to be cool with each other in front of the others to avoid speculation.

She also admitted to having gone out with the affair material (who doesn’t even look half as good as her boyfriend.) and confessed that money issues was one of it.

Which I think was ridiculous. The guy was pulling a comfortable pay cheque of 8K a month. Living expenses in JB is not as high as KL. To me it shouldn’t even be a frikkin’ issue in the first place. She is working, she is not making much but I think it should be ok for her to cover for herself.

I told her one of the many reasons why I broke up with my exes was because of money. Not because they were not showing me their thousands but simply because the thought of them having the money and me not being able to live up to that bothers me. I asked her if it was the same reason.

It was a no. It was more of a the boyfriend doesn’t earn enough to support her dying needs for Perempuan Ampang type brands like MNG and frikkin’ Top Shop.

“Takkan tiap – tiap bulan expect dia nak habiskan beratus-ratus just to buy your stuff? What happen to your paycheque? You don't even have to pay for your family as your family is well off!”

Word for word, that was what I asked her.

For the record, women love it when their respective so called ‘other halves’ buy them (expensive) presents or offered to pay for their bills, but being women, while they are loving it, it could also drag their ego down.

Obviously, the girl doesn’t have ego issues. And the affair material bought her a T&Co bracelet, which kind of sealed off the deal.

“I terkilan A** panggil adik a slut. But for the record, that was what we have been going through. If A**** could not do what I want him to do for me, macamana adik nak convince yang dia betul-betul concerned about adik?”

I told her about a man I dated who simply would not call me, who disappointed me beyond belief and who also told me (Via SMS of course...) that he simply doesn’t trust me. I rarely saw him and our meetings would be depending on his mood for the day. He definitely has the money and I guess if I got the chance to know him well enough, he would have no qualms paying for me.

So you see, I concluded almost in a corny fashion, money is not everything. In the end was how he made me feel, and I was not feeling happy. I was more happy being with other people as a single woman than to be reminded that I was with him at the time.

To me, when you have been in a relationship for as long as 3 years, it is one that is worth working on, that is worth saving. My brief sort – ish relationship doesn’t warrant a salvage. It was one that could only work with the both of us being on our own.

And of course I also told her what I think about this whole ridiculous notion of a man having to do what the woman wants him to do. It’s just not right and she is still stuck in the Jurassic period. I would love to be the one who wears the pants in a relationship once in a while, even better if I also have the financial means as well. Buy him stuff and things like that, it’s just that I can’t because I have responsibilities towards other people. Also, whether you like it or not, unfortunately, you are not his number one priority. My guess is that his car could very well be his numero uno, and not you.

Thinking about what he is supposed to do for you? Wrong move.

Yeah, the two hour telephone conversation sure packed more than I expected.

I didn’t call my guyfriend but I did SMS him saying that he could call me or anyone of our friends who know about the whole thing to talk about it. But what he would get from me would be nothing short of honest opinions.

I also told her again that I would kill to have the kind of guy who could accept me as what I am, even when I screwed up. I advised her that if they decided to make it work, it better just do.

Well, that’s my honest opinion on it la. Don't like it? Just shove something up your ass already.


  1. "Accept" not "except" :)

    And your guy friend is better off without this materialistic girl. My ex was like that and that's a good reason enough to be an 'ex'. Ish.

    Tell your guy friend that there's plenty more fish in the sea, just need to pick the right one.

  2. Izso,

    yeah.. NOW i noticed. i am so embarrassed of myself... :(

    well... hope he is able to figure that out on his own la.

  3. i agree with izso..
    with that attitude... hope she will not meet messy ends..

  4. Yep, if the girl comes to her senses .. she would realize what she is going to miss ... :-)

    Good stuff, Sarcy. Maybe I should book you for my own therapy :-) over starbucks boleh ? .. :D

  5. hmm... my suggestion, detach yourself.. they just don't know what they really want. and who knows? maybe when he comes to his senses, he'd realise it's you he wants!

  6. Ome,

    ihihi... uncertified la saya.

    hook me up with coffee... with the missus and all.. yeah?? :)


    oh well, its not up to me to say how she will end up

  7. Jade,

    to be honest with you, i get turned off already when the dude said he is still in love with her. i dont like self destructing men.

    jangan nanti dah kawin nyibuk complain and cari pompuan lain dah la